How Many More???

 

Every day, we wake up to disturbing headlines. Another woman has died by suicide. Another daughter is lost. Not by fate, but by prolonged emotional and physical abuse she went through in her own home, the very place where she should have felt safest.

And in most of these heartbreaking cases, there is a painful pattern. The family already knew.

After the tragedy, we hear statements from parents and relatives. "She had told us he was abusive." "He used to beat her, we knew she was unhappy." "We believe he is responsible for her death."

But here is the question that haunts me and should haunt all of us.

If you knew, why didn’t you pull her out of that pain before it was too late?

Why is it that a woman has to reach a breaking point before her suffering is taken seriously? 

Our society still glorifies a woman’s ability to adjust. She is expected to tolerate, forgive, and endure. She is told, “Things will get better,” “Do not ruin the marriage,” “Think about your children,” “What will society say?”

In doing so, we silence her pain. We invalidate her experiences. And worst of all, we make her feel like she is alone in her struggle.

What many families do not realize, or refuse to, is that asking a woman to stay in a toxic and abusive relationship for the sake of honor or stability is like slowly poisoning her soul.

Parents, You Are Her First and Last Line of Defense!To the parents reading this.

Your daughter’s safety, peace, and mental health should matter more than societal expectations or family reputation. Do not wait for her to lose all hope before you offer help.

If she tells you her marriage is abusive, believe her.If she says she is scared, listen to her.If she wants to leave, support her.

Give her the confidence that she has a home to return to. That she will not be judged. That her life matters more than what people will say.

Mental support is essential, but so is physical support. She needs to know that her family will stand by her, fight for her, and shelter her when the world turns cruel.

It Is Time to Break the Silence! No woman should have to choose death over freedom. No daughter should feel that staying in an abusive marriage is her only option. We need to raise daughters who know they have rights, and sons who know respect.

And we need to raise parents who do not just mourn at their daughter’s funeral, but take a stand while she is still alive.

Let her live. Let her breathe. Let her leave.

Before it is too late!